Oh, how I love you, you sweet, sweet Enneagram
I love the enneagram. so. much. You know how articles will tell you, “Do this one thing and it will change your life! Try this moisturizer and it will change your life! These shoes will change your life!” I mean, that’s a pretty big promise they are shouting to the masses. Really, my life will change? Dramatic much? Taking the enneagram has been pretty life changing for me, as well as others that I know. It is eerily accurate in so many ways. If you have not yet heard of the enneagram, let me be the first to introduce you!
The enneagram divides people into 9 different groups. I have found the Enneagram Institute a great resource for easily learning about the 9 types, so instead of reinventing the wheel, I will show you what they have to say about each type in a brief detailed description.
Type One is principled, purposeful, self-controlled, and perfectionistic.
Type Two is generous, demonstrative, people-pleasing, and possessive.
Type Three is adaptable, excelling, driven, and image-conscious.
Type Four is expressive, dramatic, self-absorbed, and temperamental.
Type Five is perceptive, innovative, secretive, and isolated.
Type Six is engaging, responsible, anxious, and suspicious.
Type Seven is spontaneous, versatile, acquisitive, and scattered.
Type Eight is self-confident, decisive, willful, and confrontational.
Type Nine is receptive, reassuring, complacent, and resigned.
You can go here to find out more about the enneagram https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/how-the-enneagram-system-works
So there you have it! 9 different personality types. Each one of us can find a little of ourselves in each one, but one will resonate with you the most. Once you discover your enneagram number you will find that you have a “wing” that is adjacent to your number. For example, you can be a 9 wing 8 or a 9 wing 1.
Honestly, learning about the enneagram and my number was a game changer! Learning that I was a 3 wing 4 (with a wing 2 coming in at a close 3rd) was eye opening to me. No wonder I have always tied my worth and value to achieving and doing! If I was not achieving something great (in my mind) I felt like a failure, like my life amounted to nothing. And when I would talk to friends that did not share my number, they would look at me with confusion and didn’t understand what to me were my basic desires. It was very isolating and frustrating. I would keep quiet about my struggles because I felt guilty for wanting more out of life. Now to be clear, just because I find my worth and value in what I do does not make that truth. My value is not found in what I do, but is found in who I am. To me, that is who God says I am, and he does not say I am valuable and worthwhile based on what I do or don’t achieve. I am His creation and made perfect in him. My achievements are beautiful, and I can celebrate them, but in no means should I find my worth in them. That goes for every personality type. It is so helpful to find what our basic needs are and how they are met uniquely for us. It also helps to know our Achilles heel as well. We really can take what we learn about ourselves and use it for good and not evil! I have found that I don’t try to stifle the need to achieve anymore. I use it to motivate me to dream big and use competition in a healthy way to get further down the road. Now I can spot the lies that my brain wants to believe when I feel like I am worthless or get down on where I am. It is very freeing. As someone who believes in God, I feel like it might be a way that we can find freedom in ourselves and freedom in letting others be who they are. If I am seeing life as a 3 or 1 or 7, I might naturally think everyone else’s outlook is the same. But now I see that my 9 husband just wants balance and peace in our marriage when I used to see that as indifference or not caring. He is loving me in the way that is a 9 and I am grateful for those attributes. This applies equally to children that don’t see life the way that you do. Learning his or her number could drastically help your communication with them. Does that mean we don’t grow and become better versions of ourselves? Not at all. I hope to become a better version of myself every day. But I don’t want to force my better version on someone else.
We should try and learn from each other because each personality type is equally important. No one type is better than another. So be proud of how you were created and humble to know that others were created equally as beautiful in different ways. Every one of us has unique gifts and qualities that we can learn from, so it is good to be open to others points of views.
As a designer and creator (Type 4 coming at ya!) I have shown my love for the enneagram in the way I know best, creating. I have created products for each number and have had so much fun doing it. There is a peace and comfort that comes from the enneagram and I am so grateful for that. It has made me proud of who I am instead of feeling like something is wrong with me. I want others to find that freedom too. And if the enneagram helps with that, more power to you! We are all trying to improve ourselves and help others in our unique ways and I believe this test might just change your life for the better!